Saturday, October 15, 2016

Child rearing - Japanese style

Overheard in the lift lobby from two Hong Kong Chinese Si Lai 師奶(housewives), dismissively: “I don’t understand these Japanese. They let their kids run around all over the place.”  It is true that the Japanese kids in our apartment complex run in and out, up and down, often by themselves, while you seldom see the Chinese kids without adults around. 

When the Japanese mothers send their kids to the school bus in the morning, the Japanese kids typically carry their school bags on their own shoulders.  They would run around while they are waiting for the bus.  And they walk to the bus themselves. 

On the other hand, the Chinese kids of a similar age are often carried, by their mothers;  but more often, by their maids.  Many times the kid seem unconscious, or still sleeping while being carried to school.  

Many of the Japanese families do not even seem to have maids.  The mother does the cooking and takes care of the kids.  On Sunday, the father would take the kids to play baseball.  In between, the kids seem to have a license to run around in the apartment complex, riding up and down the elevators. 

What kind of persons will these respective kids grow up to be?


YTSL said...

Hi Stephen --

Have you seen this video about Japan's independent kids?

I find the Japanese style of child rearing admirable, even awe-inspiring...

StephenC said...

Thank you for the link. It is indeed. Hong Kong should be safe enough for kids to go to school by themselves, in multiple ways. Parents here are much too protective. Many young people end up being too timid, too rick-averse.