Y did not attend college. Perhaps because her father’s fortune went downhill after she was adopted. Perhaps because her mother blamed her for bringing bad fortune. Perhaps because she was adopted and she is a girl. Perhaps because of all of that. This is Y’s greatest regret - her lack of education. But she is not bitter. She knows that her father loves her, and her mother appreciates her, although grudgingly.
Y’s elder brother did get sent to the best university in Shanghai, bearing the hope of the family. That first winter the son was in university, the father went to Shanghai to deliver some winter clothing, himself dressed in those bulky, padded cotton Chinese jackets. The son was not too pleased - embarrassed by his father dressing like a country bumpkin.
When the son graduated from university, he wanted to get married. He asked his father to give him 200,000 (RMB) for the wedding. He knew his father did not have that kind of money, but he wanted his father to find a way to borrow the money. When his father could not come up with the money, the son got really upset. They are not on speaking terms now.
I heard that such relationships are not atypical in China these days.